I was 55 years old, recently widowed after 36 years of marriage, when something I found at my husband’s funeral made me question whether I had ever truly known the man I loved.
I am 55 years old and, for the first time since I was 19, I have no one to call “my husband”.
His name was Greg. Raymond Gregory in every sense, but Greg to me.
On a rainy Tuesday, a truck didn’t stop on time.
We were married for 36 years. No big dramas. No fairy tales. Just the quiet kind of marriage built on shopping lists, oil changes, and him always taking the outside seat at restaurants “just in case some idiot crashes through the window.”
Then, one rainy Tuesday, a truck didn’t stop on time. A phone call, a trip to the hospital, a doctor saying “I’m so sorry,” and that was it. My life was divided into Before and After .
On the day of the funeral, I felt empty. I had cried so much that my skin hurt. My sister Laura had to zip up my dress because my hands wouldn’t stop shaking.
He seemed calm.
The chapel smelled of flowers and coffee. Soft piano music played. People touched my arm as if I might collapse if they squeezed too hard.
And there he was. Greg. Wearing the navy suit I’d bought him for our last anniversary. His hair slicked back, just like he always did for weddings. His hands clasped together, as if he were resting.
He seemed calm.
That’s when I saw him.
I told myself, “This is my last chance to do something for you.”
When the line thinned, I approached with a single red rose. I bent down and gently lifted her hands to tuck the stem between them.
That’s when I saw him.
A small white rectangle, tucked under her fingers. It wasn’t a print. Wrong size.
Nobody seemed guilty.
Someone had put something in my husband’s coffin and hadn’t told me.
I looked around. Everyone was in small groups. No one was watching me closely. No one seemed guilty.
He’s my husband. If there’s a secret in there, it belongs to me more than anyone else.
My fingers trembled as I slid the paper in and placed the rose. I put the note in my purse and went straight to the bathroom.
For a second, I didn’t understand the words. Then I understood them.
I closed the door, leaned against it, and unfolded the paper.
The handwriting was neat and careful. Blue ink.
“Although we could never be together as we deserved… my children and I will always love you.”
For a second, I didn’t understand the words.
Then I did it.
Greg and I didn’t have children.
Our children.
Greg and I didn’t have children.
Not because we didn’t want them. Because I couldn’t.
Years of dates, tests, silent bad news. Years of crying against his chest while he whispered,
“It’s okay. It’s just you and me. That’s enough. You are enough.”
Who wrote this?
But, apparently, there were “our children” somewhere who wanted him “forever”.
My vision blurred. I grabbed the sink and looked at myself in the mirror.
The mascara was running. Her eyes were puffy. It seemed like a cliché.
Who wrote this? Who had children with my husband?
I didn’t cry. Not then.
“Someone put this in his coffin.”
I went to get the cameras.
The security room was a small office with four monitors and a man in a gray uniform. His name tag read “Luis”.
He looked up, startled.
“Ma’am, this area is…”.
“My husband is in the funeral home,” I said. “Someone put this in his coffin.”
He raised the chapel’s food supply.
I picked up the note.
“I need to know who did it.”
He hesitated. “I’m not sure if…”
“I paid for the room. He’s my husband. Please.”
She sighed and turned back to the monitors. She zoomed in on the image of the chapel, rewound, and fast-forwarded.
Dark hair, tight bun.
People blinked on the screen. Hugs, flowers, hands on the coffin.
“Slower,” I said.
A woman dressed in black approached the coffin alone. Dark hair, tied in a tight bun.
He looked around, then slid his hand under Greg’s, put something in, and patted him on the chest.
Susan.
I took a picture of the frame while it was paused.
Susan Miller. His “work lifeline.” She owned the supply company that delivered to his office. He’d seen her several times at events. Slim, efficient, always laughing a little too much.
At that moment, she was the woman who secretly slipped a note into my husband’s coffin.
I took a picture of the frame while it was paused.
“Thank you,” I said to Luis.
“You left something in my husband’s coffin.”
Then I went back to the chapel.
Susan was near the back, talking to two women from Greg’s office. A handkerchief in her hand, her eyes red, like the grieving widow from some alternate universe.
When she saw me arrive, her expression flickered. Just for a second. Guilt.
I stopped right in front of her. “You left something in my husband’s coffin.”
Susan blinked. “What?”
“I saw you do it in front of the camera. Don’t lie to me.”
“Who are the children, Susan?”
“I… just wanted to say goodbye,” she whispered.
“Then you could have done it like everyone else. You hid it under his hands. Why?”
The people around us were listening. I could feel it.
Susan’s chin trembled. “I didn’t mean for you to find it.”
I took the note out of my bag and held it up. “Who are the children, Susan?”
For a moment I thought she was going to faint. Then she nodded.
“He didn’t want you to see them.”
“They’re his,” he said. “They’re Greg’s children.”
A murmur rippled through the nearby crowd. Someone exclaimed.
“Are you saying that my husband had children with you?” I asked.
He swallowed. “Two. A boy and a girl.”
“You’re lying.”
“I’m not lying. I didn’t mean to hurt you. I knew I shouldn’t have brought them. He didn’t want you to see them.”
Suddenly, my humiliation was a group activity.
Every word felt like it was aimed right between my ribs. I looked around; all eyes were on us. Friends, neighbors, coworkers. Suddenly, my humiliation was a group activity.
I couldn’t stay. I couldn’t scream in front of Greg’s coffin.
So I did the only thing I could.
I turned around and left.
I had never read them.
***
After the burial, the house looked like a stranger’s.
Her shoes were still by the door. Her mug was on the counter. Her glasses were on the nightstand.
I sat on the edge of the bed and stared at the shelf in the closet.
Eleven newspapers in a neat row. Greg’s handwriting on the spines.
“It helps me think,” he said.
I had never read them. It was like opening my head.
I took down the first newspaper and opened it.
But Susan’s words echoed: “Two. A boy and a girl.”
I took down the first newspaper and opened it.
The first entry was from a week after our wedding. I wrote about our terrible honeymoon motel. The broken air conditioner. My laughter.
I flipped through the pages.
Page after page about us.
She wrote about our first fertility appointment. Me crying in the car.
He wrote: “I wish I could swap bodies with her and endure this pain.”
I turned to the next diary. Then to the next. Page after page about us. About our fights. Our inside jokes. My migraines. His fear of flying. The holidays. The bills.
No mention of any other woman.
No secret children. No double life.
The writing became darker.
By the time I got to the sixth journal, my eyes were burning.
Halfway through, the tone changed. The writing became darker.
He wrote: “Susan is pressuring us again. She wants us to commit for three years. The quality is declining. The last shipment was bad. People got sick.”
Next entry: “I told him we were done. He got angry. He said I was ruining his business.”
Next entry: “We could sue. The lawyer says we’d win. But he has two children. I don’t want to take food off their table.”
What if there were no secret children?
Below, in thicker ink: “I’ll let it go. But I won’t forget what he’s capable of.”
I sat on the bed, with the diary open and my hands trembling.
Two children. Her children. Not his.
What if there were no secret children?
What if he had encountered my pain and decided it wasn’t enough?
I picked up the phone and called Peter.
I told him everything.
Peter was Greg’s best friend from work. He’d already been over three times, fixing things that weren’t broken because he didn’t know what else to do.
He answered quickly. “Ev?”
“I need your help. And I need you to believe me.”
I told him everything. The note. The cameras. What Susan had said. What I had read in the newspaper. He remained silent.
“Peter?” I whispered.
“I’ll help you figure out what’s real.”
“I believe you,” she finally said. “I knew Ray. If he’d had children with someone else, he wouldn’t have been able to hide it. He was a terrible liar.”
A weak laugh escaped me.
“I’ll help you figure out what’s real,” he said. “You deserve it.”
***
The following afternoon, he sent his son, Ben.
“I’ll lose my temper if I go,” Peter told me. “Ben is calmer.”
“You don’t owe anyone proof.”
Ben was 17 years old. Tall, polite, a little clumsy. He came by my house first.
“You can back out if you want,” he said. “You don’t owe anyone proof.”
“I owe them to myself. And to Greg.”
Peter had already unearthed Susan’s address from the old seller’s papers. Ben drove there.
When he returned an hour later, we sat down at my kitchen table. My hands were cupped around a teacup I wasn’t drinking from.
“A girl opened the door. Teenager.”
“Tell me everything,” I said.
“So,” she said, “I knocked on the door. This girl answered. Teenager. Pajama pants, messy bun. I asked for her dad.”
I imagined it as I spoke.
“She called out to him,” Ben continued. “A guy in his fifties came to the door. I told him, ‘I’m here about something your wife said yesterday at a funeral.'”
“He knew immediately that something was wrong.”
Ben swallowed hard. “I told her she said she had an affair with Greg. That her children were Greg’s.”
I shuddered.
“He froze,” Ben said. “Then he yelled for Susan. She came out with a dish towel in her hand. She saw me. She saw him. She knew right away that something was wrong.”
“What did he say?”
“She denied it,” he said. “She said I was lying. I told her I heard it with my own ears.”
“Why did he say he had done it?”
“And then?”
“Her husband asked again,” Ben said. “He seemed… devastated. He said, ‘Have you told people that our children aren’t mine?'”
Ben stared at the table.
“She exploded,” he said. “She yelled, ‘Okay, yes, I said it.'”
I closed my eyes. “Why did he say he did it?”
“I wanted to hurt him.”
“She said Greg had ruined her life,” Ben replied. “She said he complained about her losing contracts, about her company going under. She said he went to the funeral to hurt you. That he wanted you to feel as crazy as she did.”
“Did he say the children were really his?” I whispered.
“No. She said they were her husband’s. She only used Greg’s name to get revenge. Those were her words. ‘They were just words. She wanted to hurt him.'”
My eyes were burning.
A bitter woman who decided that my pain was not punishment enough.
Ben added quietly, “Her daughter was crying. Her husband looked like someone had kicked him in the chest.”
Silence fell between us.
So there I was. No secret family. No double life. Just a bitter woman who decided my pain wasn’t punishment enough. I covered my eyes with my hands and began to sob.
When I finally calmed down, Ben said, “My dad always said Ray was the most loyal guy he knew. If that’s any consolation.”
“It’s worth a lot,” I said.
I took an empty notebook from my nightstand.
When he left, I went back upstairs and grabbed Greg’s diary again.
“I’ll let it be. But I won’t forget what he’s capable of.”
“Me neither,” I said.
I sat down on the floor, took an empty notebook from my nightstand and opened it to the first page.
If Susan could write lies and put them in my husband’s hands, I could write the truth and keep it with me.
My marriage was not a lie.
So I started. About Greg. About the rose. About the note. About the cameras. About Luis, Peter, and Ben. About a woman who walked into a funeral and tried to bury a good man twice. I still don’t know what I’ll do with it.
But I know one thing: My marriage was not a lie.
My husband had flaws; he was human, stubborn, and sometimes annoying. But he was mine.
And even after all that, when I turn the pages of those diaries, one thing is always there, over and over again, in the margins and in the small lines between his thoughts.
“I love her.”
He never hid that.
“I love her.”
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